I have never been able to complete a letter to you newbies. I have tried, but never got past drafting. This is how my letter started last summer (it was still in my unpublished posts):
Dear First-Year Teacher,
Congratulations! Your first year of being a teacher will be upon you very soon. I am sure you are full of emotions. If your emotions are anything like in Inside Out (which I suggest you see before the start of the year), I am pretty sure that Fear is at the control panel most of the time. Don’t worry, it won’t always be that way. Joy will be upfront quite often.
Be sure to ask questions.
And that is as far as I got before I couldn’t decide what to else to say. Everything in that first draft is true. And there is sooooo much more…I will try to keep it short and sweet. I know that there is a lot that you need to know, but I also know that you won’t remember most of what people tell you!
Ask for help.
Listen to your students.
Save resources and advice somewhere because you aren’t going to remember it once the school year starts. But, later after things settle down, you will know where to look to find it and you will be better ready to decide if it is useful to you.
When people start telling you more than you can handle, tune them out. Smile, nod, and say “Thank you.” You aren’t ready for what they are saying, and that is perfectly fine.
Why do I have to clean you when you are supposed to help me clean? I remember how disappointed and frustrated I was when I realized I would have to clean everything that I use to clean. And to be honest, at almost thirty, I still hate the idea. Being a grown up….Ick!
You say regrets are weakness. I have regrets, but I am not weak. One of my regrets is drifting away from you. When you were a kid, relating to you, spending time with you was simple. As you grew and life became more complicated for me, I didn’t know how to spend time with you, or even talk to you. I guess I stopped trying. We are no longer close and it is my fault. I regret that.
You say smiling is weakness. I disagree. Although I don’t agree with or understand your reasons for enlisting, I am proud of you. I am proud because it is what you wanted to do and you did it. You didn’t let naysayers deter you from following the path you wanted to take. This is why you are strong. I hope that you find contentment and, dare I say, happiness. I hope you find reasons to smile. And most of all, I hope that you find that smiling is not a sign of weakness. It is simply a sign that you have things in your life of value and you recognize them.
You say not to look back at the past, Surprise! I disagree! Ma was right (as she generally is) when she told you that the past makes us who we are. It isn’t something to be forgotten or ignored. We are who we are because of our experiences. We can learn from it, grow from it. The past can also teach us, and our past has taught me about the person I want to be, mistakes I never want to make, and relationships I want to have. Don’t forget or ignore – learn.
So, we disagree, you and me, on many ideas. That is a fact. It is also a fact that we are family. I am your socially awkward, stubborn, liberal, bossy older sister. You are my stubborn, persistent brother. You are in the Army. While I hope you write, I’m not counting on it. But, know that you can count on me. I will be here. Regardless of what you do, say, or think – you are my “little” brother. I don’t have to agree to be proud, or to be a friend. I am proud of you and I love you.
I remember the funeral. Troy was not even one, but walking already. We sat in the coat closet of the funeral home. I was criss-cross-applesauce on the ground, Brittney and some of my cousins on the couch. On the other side of that door was the wake – your wake, Grandpa.
The door was closed. Was it to keep Troy inside? Or to keep everything else out? The sounds of people reminiscing? The sniffles? The sight of your body in that coffin? We sat in there most of the day and into the evening. Talking about memories.
Square dancing in the living room, as you called out the moves.
The smell of beef jerky waking us up in the morning, but not being able to eat it yet.
Weeks in Michigan at Barbra and Norman’s house on the lake.
We laughed, smiled, reminisced. But, when we walked out of that coat closet, nothing stayed the same. Yes, we are all still family. But, you were our leader, our patriarch. And without you, things changed. You kept us together when you were alive. You gave us places and reasons to gather. You were our glue. But, with you gone, we don’t have the ability to stick. Yes, Uncle Chuck and Uncle Tim still work at the shop. Mom still talks to her sisters. Uncle Pat and his family went to visit Aunt Terri. But, without you, we are groups. We are not one family.
Grandpa, you led and we followed. But in the end, we followed your model, not your words. You had little contact, if any, with your siblings as adults. Now, your kids are repeating your model.
You didn’t give us a model to follow. You didn’t help us know how to keep together when you were gone. Yes, we all love you. I love you. But, I have some anger, too. While I am aware that time passes and things change. And I understand why things – the Runge family – is several separate entities. I don’t like it.
I will show my son – my family – through my example. I will show him the importance of family. I will teach him to forgive and to accept – both by my words and by my actions. I will not be the glue that holds my family together. I will give them what they need to stay together.
You may notice this post is much longer than anything I have written and that is because I didn’t write it. I tried to write a letter to new teachers, but it just didn’t come out. However, my amazing friend and colleague wrote an amazing one to share with the new teachers at our school this year. Amanda is a second year teacher and her dedication is obvious through this letter. Who better to give first years advice?
Dear New Teacher,
These are the things I wish I knew as a First Year Teacher, the things I realized along the way, and all the things in-between! In this list you can find small to big ideas. Some concepts may be obvious to you already (great!); others, I hope, may be eye opening to you and the year ahead of you. GOOD LUCK! 🙂
Use contact paper!
You may find it silly, but I spent hours putting clear tape over everything only to spend more hours taking it off. Take the advice and don’t mess up like me…use contact paper instead!
If you have word work built into your writing block, put it at the end of the writing lesson.
I tried placing word work at the beginning of writing, but it ended taking more time out of writing. Bah humbug! Be wise and put it at the end!
Okay, this one may be obvious… Keep student work examples, like reading and writing notebooks.
You can use student work as examples for future classes, to help demonstrate what you are/are not looking for, and to make the work more realistic and achievable for students.
Oh! This one I have been working on a lot… It’s okay to NOT have student input during the modeling/mini-lesson.
My mini-lessons would become not-so-mini when I ALWAYS tried to include students’ input. Keep it short and straight to the point; this will give students more individual time to practice the technique you are teaching.
Don’t stay until 9 o’clock every night…
I am one of those overly exuberant teachers. You combine this with intense dedication and you’ve got a disaster. The first few months were tragic. I practically lived at school. Luckily winter break rolled around soon enough to give me a breather and to wake me up with the realization that I was crazy! Soon enough I would be too exhausted to even teach! Don’t overdo yourself! Prioritize and remember that Rome wasn’t built in a day. Even perfectionists like me have to realize this.
Never be afraid to ask questions!
I am naturally the question-student, armed with one thousand questions per second. Gratefully, I had a mentor that allowed and encouraged my flow of questions. What I learned along the way, from both my mentor and my peers, is that the question-student gets most of the answers at a quicker rate. In other words, you learn how to fix mistakes and how to better proceed.
Take time for yourself!
Again, a seemingly obvious piece of advice, but isn’t it funny how often we forget to follow this ourselves? Even if there’s a deadline, remember to give yourself a break: take a walk, grab a coffee with a colleague, take a nap, you name it! Personally, I prefer to get out a bit right after school; this way I am refreshed and ready to tackle difficult tasks upon my return.
Hand out “Thank you” cards to colleagues and students.
The weight of a simple thank you card is astounding. I got so caught up in school, planning, and grading, that although I had the intention—I never got around to it. 😦 This is certainly something I plan on changing this year.
Organize your computer folders by subjects and topics/units within that subject.
This will not only keep your computer clean, but your resources will be easier to find and therefore, easily accessible in future years.
Use sheet protectors for reusable games, graphic organizers, fill-in-the-blanks, and so on.
Simply use dry erase markers and an eraser (wet wipes) to clean the sheet when done. Students will be able to practice their math facts on chutes and ladders, fill in graphic organizers to practice retelling…the possibilities are limitless!
Figure out a system to organize and keep track of your classroom books.
I could not decide which system I wanted, so I had a difficult time knowing which books were checked out and to whom they were check out to. 😦 Because of this, I could barely keep track of those books that I had purchased with my own money! Yikes! Don’t let this happen to you!
Almost always construct anchor charts with students.
Unless you MUST do it in advance because… well, I can’t even come up with a decent reason, besides making it look pretty… you should be creating these charts with your students. They’ll remember the information more when you do. When you think about it, is it the prettiness you want them to remember or the information? Information always weighs out!
Post your reading group and writing conference order—and keep it visible!
Great for both you and the students! This gives students a schedule to look forward to and depend upon and it also reminds you when you need to meet with each student.
Praise the small and large achievements—and mean it!
If you get excited when students make little successes throughout the day, they will get excited as well. Students will also be more willing to work for these smaller successes since they can see how much you notice and care!
Contact Parents/Guardians on a regular basis.
Parents need to know what’s going on in the classroom, the subtopics you’re covering, and the behaviors of their child—both bad and good. First you must decide which means is best for communication with your parents. Some may prefer email, while others prefer agenda planners. Secondly, write about the great moments your students have! This will help develop a deep and lasting relationship between you and the student and you and the parents.
Let yourself be seen reading, writing, solving math problems, and so on.
A lot of what we learn as humans is learned through watching someone else—observing another human modeling an action or characteristic and then putting what we observe into practice. We, like parents, are the ultimate models for students. Make sure you are participating in those essential activities too!
Give feedback and give it often!
Just make sure you are focusing on one task at a time! I made this mistake my first year—I guess I was a little eager! I thought the more I said, the more they would know and understand my thinking, but I forgot the obvious…it was overwhelming! Pick the MOST important task to focus on, make a goal, and work on improving it. Once you have achieved this goal together, you can either construct a new goal together or move onto the next task to improve.
Better to give it a shot “your way” than wait for the “perfect” way.
I am extremely guilty of doing this, especially as a first year teacher. I was so stricken with the fear of messing up that sometimes I just waited, put off whatever it was I wanted to accomplish, in hopes of finding the “right” way. I hate to break it to you—surely it broke me a bit too—but the majority of the time, there is NO “perfect” or “right” way. You need to use the information you do know to make your best judgment. Sometimes learning along the way is the best way there can be. Trial and error; think of Edison! I am still learning this too. Just remember when you DON’T try, you surely won’t succeed! Might as well give it a shot!
Let students take the lead and teach.
Whether the student is demonstrating how to solve a math problem or sharing a personal experience, both teacher and peers can learn a great deal from allowing students to take charge. This gives students a chance to share their thinking and their work. You will also get to know the students better through this methodology.
Going along with the last one, don’t forget to be yourself!
Let students see you cry when you’re upset, smile when you’re happy, and admit when you’re wrong (of course all in reason and moderation). My students know that I don’t know everything, that I am still learning too—and that’s okay! How can a student truly trust you and believe in you if you do not show emotion or never own up to being wrong? Believe it or not, students respect you much more when you are honest with them. As we all know, students learn by modeling. If you are not afraid to admit to being wrong, students will mirror this and therefore, will be more likely to take risks.
Students will only take risks when they feel comfortable… so make them feel comfortable!
Applaud their mistakes, since you know what it’s like to get up to try and to feel humiliated when you don’t succeed. The point, my friend, is that they tried! Isn’t life full of silly mistakes and mistakes that we didn’t even know were mistakes at all at the time?! We will certainly never discover the right answers if we do not try, so applaud your heart out! 🙂
Get to know and respect the students as people.
This has to be one of my biggest pet peeves, so I apologize in advance if this one turns into a rant. Don’t forget, students are people too! They want to be heard, listened to, cared for, thought of, and respected. Wouldn’t it be terrible if the people most prevalent in your life only cared about your academic performance and would never listen to your deepest passions and darkest worries? I think so! It tells me that they don’t truly care. To show that you do care, take time out of your day to say a simple hello and ask them about their day. Stop by in the lunchroom, take a seat with them, and share a meal together. Showing these simple signs of affection goes a long way—of course you don’t have to do this every day (that would be a bit much)—but every now and then reminding your students that you value their thoughts, words, and presence like people.
Follow your OWN rules!
I cannot stress this enough! If you expect students to abide by your school and classroom rules, you need to follow them as well! This means not talking in the hallway (Ehhm!), not working or talking during a presentation/assembly—you catch my drift. Remember, we lead by example. If you look around, the best students are likely to be those that follow the best examples: their teachers.
Create a Classroom Family!
If you name your class this, you HAVE to own it! What does this mean, you might ask? You must use the phrase “Classroom Family” day-in and day-out, remind students to stand up for their peers and applaud their successes because they’re a Classroom Family. When there’s drama in the classroom or they need to solve a problem (whether academic or social), tell them to band together as a family to figure it out. Oh, and don’t forget, you’re a part of the family too! 🙂
Be the teacher you would want to have!
Think about all the best teachers you’ve ever had and the worst ones…what’s stopping you from being a super-duper combination of all the best ones?! And as they always say, if you can dream it, you can do it! So do it! Let the “bad” teachers remind you of who not to be, and let the “good” ones inspire you to be even better than the best! Hey, it doesn’t stop with your childhood memories either—good teachers can be colleagues, friends, and even mentors! Let all you know and all you see be a reminder of who you want to be! 🙂
Finally, if all else fails, remember to never stop learning and loving teaching! All else will follow! ♥
Yes, the world has ended. Jill Pickle has left me and I will be working with a new teacher this year. I know, I will survive and develop another great relationship. I am past my self-pity and looking forward to meeting my new partner. Since co-teaching is like a marriage, I want my new partner to have a heads up.
Dear New Co-teacher,
I don’t know who you are yet, but very soon we will be a team. We will be spending so much time together our cycles will sync. (TMI…I know, but get used to it.) Here are some things you should know about me.
1. I may look angry, but I’m not. Some people call it the “resting *itch face.” Don’t be intimidated.
2. Smiling and small talk don’t come naturally to me. Please don’t take it personally if I look at you and don’t greet you.
3. Along the same lines…sometimes I will respond in my head and not verbalize it. (And not realize I didn’t say it.) I apologize in advance.
4. I am a morning person.
5. I have some control issues. I don’t delegate well, but I am working on it.
6. I am dedicated to these kids and will do everything that I can to help them learn.
7. I am an organized mess. Although, from the outside, it will just look like a mess. I will try to change, but I just don’t think it will ever happen…
8. I want you to tell me if I make you angry, upset, frustrated, etc. I can’t fix what I don’t know.
9. I whole heartedly believe that co-teaching is the best for ALL students. All of the students are OURS and together we will help them grow.
Your New Partner,
To go along with Michelle’s BigTime Blogging Challenge, here’s a poem…
My mom is moving to Florida and my sister threw her a surprise party today. (I still have doubts that she will stay permanently, but only time will tell.) However, the big surprise was that her little sister came in from Wyoming.
When my mom saw her sister, she screamed hugged her, cried, and didn’t let go. She just kept repeating, “I love you so much!” It has been three years since they have seen each other. I can’t imagine going years without seeing my sisters and so tonight I would like to write them a letter.
Dear Little Sisters,
You are, and always have been, a pain in my behind. You copied me, teased me, annoyed me. All for the fun of it. But, I know that I have told you a fair share of stories (that you may call lies). I do not apologize for my stories, they were fun!
I know that sometimes we talk and see each other more, and other times less. However, I promise that no matter what is going on in my life, I will not let three years pass. I will never be that excited to see you, because I will never go that long not seeing you.
Every time we would argue, Ma would tell us, “You girls need to get along. One day you will only have each other.” And of course, she is right. She is always right. So, I promise that no matter what arguments we have, I will always be there when you need me…whether you want me there or not.
Would you consider donating one (or two) of these fabulous chairs to a dedicated teacher’s classroom? Sitting on it during dinner yesterday was extremely comfortable and wouldn’t it look fabulous behind my small group table?! Please consider a donation. 😉
A Delusional Teacher
I know we live in the Chicago-land area, and winters can be cold, however I really don’t want to make up anymore “cold” days. Two is one too many. Please just stay above zero for the rest of the winter?!
A Grateful Teacher
Every time you shower, brush your hair, and put on clean yoga pants, your son asks why you are getting “fancy.” Yikes! I think that means you need to start spending more time on yourself. Remember your OLW: FIERCE!
Our literacy coach has started an exciting new blogging club with some of our fourth and fifth graders. Their assignment for this week was to create a post of five things they are thankful for and reading them encouraged me to write about everything I am grateful for. After very little blogging since the beginning of the school year, I think I am ready to jump back in..
I am so thankful to be your mother. You make me proud each day by the choices you make and the amazing things you can accomplish at only eight. As your birthday approaches, I am reminded of all of the wonderful moments we have had together in the last nine years. I was terrified and excited when you came into this world, and I am still terrified of all the mistakes I might make in raising you. However, each day I see what an amazing young person you are and I am encouraged and grateful.
Love always and forever,
Working with my best friend is truly an amazing experience. I suppose that it would not work with every pair of friends, but you are one of a kind. You are your own worst critic, but please believe me when I say that you are a superb teacher and person. I am grateful for your support, your humor, and your understanding.
Every brunette needs a blonde best friend,
Dear Little Sis,
As a child, honestly, you were kind of evil. You broke my glasses, bit me, and all around terrorized me for fun. However, you have become a friend and confidant. I am so proud of the mother you have become, your boys are fantastic because of you.
Your Big Sis
I know that, although my life isn’t perfect, I am a very lucky lady. In addition to the people mentioned above, I have a supporting, loving family. I have phenomenal grandparents who I love and respect more than words can say.
My job, although stressful, is my passion. Everyday, as children enter the building, I am confident that this is the career I was destined to choose. There are days I cry and doubt that I can do it, but I realize I am lucky to have a job that I am passionate enough about to become so upset.
With a house over my head, food in the fridge, and Netflix on my iPAD, I am content. Even more, I am just plain grateful…